NetMenders Advice I

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Hello and Welcome.

I would first like to take a moment to personally thank you for choosing to be a part of our NetMenders ministry.  It reaches out to help wounded shepherds everywhere.  Many of God’s messengers have been left alone and forgotten after being deeply hurt in their places of service.  Your participation and support will provide significant blessing to these dear ones and honor to the name of our Lord.

New NetMenders often ask me what to do and especially what not to do.  So, I thought I would share a few insights.

  1. First, be yourself, friendly and caring.  Use your first name when you email them as it makes you more approachable.  You may send a picture of yourself if you are comfortable with that.  Use our email portal when communicating with your assigned pastor to retain confidentiality and privacy.  Emails may be monitored by the team leader.
  2. Secondly, Understand that God is going to use you in a very significant way.  These pastors are your divine appointment.  God will speak through you to touch their spirits and mend their hurting hearts.  But, as you give to them your heart is going to be wonderfully blessed also.  You are giving a cup of cold water in Jesus’ name to a dry and thirsty soul.
  3. Third, Always bring honor to God.  The good news for you is that you do not have to have the answers. Jesus does.  So, lead them to the Cross and to their Savior.  You will never be wrong when you take them by the hand and deliver them to their Maker.
  4. Always treat these precious people with dignity and respect.  Each one has been hand picked by the Lord himself and given special anointing to present the gospel in our world.  For many painful months they may have endured the onslaught of disrespect, rejection and abuse and may be uncertain about their calling.  No matter what they may have done, they are important to us.  It is our mission to help them rediscover their joy in serving God again.
  5. It is their responsibility to do the right thing and make right decisions.  We should not make decisions for them.  Every issue a person faces in life has a Christ honoring response.  You may pray for them, encourage them and advise them, but in the end it is their choice.  We should respect this.
  6. Read their emails carefully.  What is said and what is meant may be different.  In fact, all written communication has 12 different interpretations.  So, if you do not understand something, ask them to clarify it.  Or, you can ask leading questions, such as, “Is this what you were trying to tell me………?”
  7. Your advice should be specific, doable and honorable.  Just telling a person that they need to stop what they are doing is not helpful.  You must help them to understand  how.
  8. Always remain hopeful and encouraging, even as you realize that there are no quick cures for many problems.  Lace all of your email with hope in Christ.  Be patient with the wounded soul and an encourager to their life.  When all is said and done, God is going to do wonders for these messengers.
  9. The last piece of advice in this first segment is – You are a person talking to a person in an email relationship.  Let them know that God has helped you in your time of difficulties and challenges.  Share short stories of His faithfulness in your darkest hours.  This will give them hope and lets them know that you are still a work in progress.

In the next video tape I will continue with advice to NetMenders.  The symptoms experienced by a deeply wounded shepherd are most similar to Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder with the addition of the spiritual conflict component.  Let’s take a look at how to deal with it together.

If you have any specific questions that you would like help with please write me personally at

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